Video: Randy vs. People-Pleasing

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“I’m a big people pleaser. I’ll go out of my way just to be accepted in some shape or form… I did whatever I could to fit in wherever I could, just for that reassurance that I’m a good person. I was always the one at the bar who would buy the round of drinks for everybody, and come the end of the night I’m broke.

“So now I work on the 4th floor treatment office… it has helped me because I can’t let people slide – we have to hold people accountable. I have to be fair but firm, and I think that’s helping me because I can’t be everyone’s best friend.

“It’s given me the chance to say no to people, it gives me a chance to set that boundary. Rather than pleasing them so that they will accept me, I know that God accepts me, and I know that I can work through Him to make someone else happy.”

—— Randy, 4 months 22 days clean and sober

While in recovery from substance abuse, Randy is finding freedom from an life-long pattern that contributed to his addiction: people-pleasing. See how his work therapy in the Treatment Office has proved particularly helpful in overcoming his codependent tendencies.

Recap: Videos, photos, and music from our 2017 Banquet

This past Sunday, we gathered at Martin’s West to celebrate over 120 men who have graduated in the past year. If you weren’t there, these videos, songs, and photos will give you a taste of the event – and if you were there, it will bring back good memories!


Here’s a highlight reel of the event, featuring graduates, clients, and supporters of HUM:

Watch all the videos we premiered at the banquet (plus a few more) here:

Videos Debuting at our 2016 Banquet

Dom’s interview:

Nick’s and his mother’s interview:

Matt’s interview:

Bob’s remarks:


The opening choir medley:

Kirk and his sister sing The Impossible Dream:


Thanks to Skip of Jenny Beck Photos for these event pics:

“I want to help others get back in the saddle again”

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"Bicycles have been a part of my entire life – riding, building, everything. My parents helped run a small track in Virginia, and we all raced except for my mom. But in my mid-teens I discovered the temporary bliss of drugs and alcohol. In the early days, the party was glorious. Little did I know what was in store for me… I attempted many times to control or maintain, to no avail. Before long, the hideous four horsemen had descended upon me and I had become someone I didn’t even know. I had become a hopeless, homeless, transient drunk and dope fiend. At times I would land a job in a bike shop, wrenching in whatever city or town I had wandered into, only to be released from that job as a direct result of my alcoholism and drug addiction. In August 2015, I found myself in Baltimore, needing help on many levels. I was homeless, living only to get one more drink. I was completely broken, mentally, spiritually, and physically. I found the Helping Up Mission and began my journey of recovery. It’s been a long road, cleaning up the wreckage of my past. I’m not where I wish to be in life, but I’m certainly not where I was. I’ve become reasonably happy and full of hope in my perfectly imperfect little world. A big part of my recovery is provided by the invention called the bicycle. I was given an old 70’s Shogun road bike. I stripped it down, painted it, and built it into a track bike that I love. And I want to help others get “back in the saddle again,” helping men who are also rebuilding their lives to put together bikes for themselves that can get them to school or jobs." —– Graham, 7 months clean and sober, is fixing up donated bikes and teaching other men how to repair and maintain their own bikes

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“God began to turn my heart”

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"When I came here last December 23rd, I didn't want to stop using. I came here because I had legal problems… and I planned to leave as soon as they were taken care of. But at some point, maybe 3 or 4 months in, God began to turn my heart. I don't know if it's something I heard or something I saw, but the need to be here began to turn into a want-to-be-here. Every day, I wanted to be here. So God began to mold and shape me, and He put people in my life, because He knew I needed to see empirical evidence that this works. One thing I've learned: the trap didn't kill the rat. It was his love for the cheese. Drugs was just a symptom of my real problem: my thinking. I had to change my thinking. There's no finish line on this thing. But I knew at some point God had to change my heart." —– Bailis, celebrating one year of sobriety today!

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“My parents had never met their great-grandchildren until Saturday”

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"My parents had never met their great-grandchildren until this Saturday. I don’t have the best relationship with my kids, but it’s starting to get better… and everything just came together on Saturday. Independently, everyone was coming to visit me, and the photographers were here, and we were able to take this photo together… There’s no explanation for what happened except that God is at work.” —— Barry, 123 days #clean and #sober, reflecting on the @help_portrait event we hosted this past weekend #familyreunion #family #sober #sobriety #soberlife #onedayatatime #sobrietyrocks #tuesday #baltimore #maryland #tuesdaytransformation #transformationtuesday #rehab #12steps #addiction #recovery #clean #heardatHUM

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Why I Run – Dom’s story (video)

Why do you run? Dom just ran in the 2016 Baltimore Marathon – his 2nd. He’s in recovery from multiple chemical addictions, and he considers running his new, healthy addiction. Watch Dom run along the Baltimore waterfront while listening to his powerful spoken-word piece, “Endurance.”



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"I love running. But a year ago, I weighed 370. I couldn't lay on my back without choking, waking up in the middle of the night trying to catch my breath… That was when I hit my lowest point. The hardest thing for me to deal with was the embarrassment of knowing that a couple of years before, I was really in shape, and I'd actually run a marathon. How did I just run a marathon, and now I can hardly breathe when I'm laying on my back? I came in to Helping Up Mission a year ago, and I'm currently 239 pounds. I run with Back On My Feet. When I rejoined them in 2016, it was like learning how to ride a bike all over again. But as time went on, as each run passed, I said 'I can do this!' Running gives you endurance. When I relapsed, I didn't think I had the endurance to get up again and try to get clean and sober and get my life back together. I run to build endurance through life's struggles." —————- Dom, 341 days #clean and #sober, ran his second marathon in the @baltrunfest on Saturday! Running with @bomfbaltimore has been a huge part of his #recovery. Check out our video of Dom at the link in our profile #soberlife #runhappy #brf #baltimorerunningfestival #baltimoremarathon #marathontraining #marathontraining2016 #longrun #runner #wednesday #sobermovement #runnerslife #igrunners #wisdomwednesday #runalways #charmcityrun #charmcity #runnerscommunity #baltimore #onedayatatime #sobrietyrocks #rehab #12steps #addiction #relapse #wednesdaywisdom

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Sober fun at Camden Yards (video)

Thanks to a generous gift from the O’s, 100 of our men were able to enjoy a Baltimore Orioles baseball game together. For some, it was their first baseball game, for others, it was their first sober baseball game, and for all, it was a great memory.