The difference between them involves their motives. To “foster love” causes a person to do things they might not normally do – “cover over an offense.” That means being willing to just let it go!
The other person “repeats the matter” – just the opposite. Rather than letting something go, they’re repeating things and passing it along.
I doubt these folks are oblivious to the fact that what they’re saying “separates close friends.” Neither do I think the one who “repeats the matter” is doing so for the good of either one of the “close friends” who will be affected.
This is probably not a person committed to being part of the solution. Rather, I imagine they’re more interested in perpetuating the problem – possibly even to their own advantage.
We probably all know that passing along inappropriate information is wrong. But we also need to know the value of consciously choosing to let something go.
In our daily dealings with others we will get plenty of opportunity to practice both phrases of this wise saying. While we don’t want to enable another’s inappropriate behavior, there are plenty of things that – every day – we should be able to just let go!